The Future

The Future X Keratoconus

There are numerous questions I get asked regularly by those who know that I have Keratoconus.

• Why don’t you wear glasses? 

• Why are you so scared to date? 

• Why don’t you drive? 

• Why don’t you go outside without your contact lenses? 

 The list goes on, but the main question I get asked by my fellow KC’er who have recently been diagnosed is: 

“Can I live a normal life with Keratoconus?”

I know somewhere in the English Language rule there’s some law which states never to answer a question with a question. Well, I’ve never been one to follow the rules….. just kidding I’m too chicken shit to break any rules anywhere.  However, I’ll break this one. 

So my answer is: 

What is a normal life? Honestly, what do you consider a normal life to be? For instance, there can be someone who believes a normal life to be living it up to Las Vegas-style; bottle service on the weekend, a shitload of girls at their disposal, and eating out on a regular basis. 

On the other hand, there can be someone who considers a normal life as having a stable job, food on the table, and having a family living in a white picket fence.  

Then there are some who are workaholics and that’s a normal life; paying bills and buying the finest things life has to offer.

See, “normal” varies across the board, it’s usually how we look and then compare ourselves to others. 

“Sigh, I wish I could have a normal life like Bob” 

So can you live a normal life with KC? I don’t know - I don’t know what your priorities are in life. However, if you ask me if you can live a happy life with KC, well, the answer is Yes. You have to remember it’s up to you to be happy. No one else should have that power, but you. Your happiness is in your hands and if you want to be happy, then be happy! You deserve to be happy and live a happy life. 

Indeed there are going to be some days which are harder than others and you cry more than normal. You know what? That's okay. Crying isn’t a sign of weakness and it doesn’t automatically mean that you are going to be unhappy forever. You’re just in pain. We tend to hold in a lot of our emotions because there’s that feeling of constantly trying to keep it together so that society doesn’t see we are imperfect. Also, we want to be the strongest we can be for ourselves because no one else is going to feel our pain. So cry a little, let go of the pain and breathe. 

You got this!

Life is all about choices: we can dwell on the negatives or we can focus on the positives, even if the negatives outweigh the good.

Always remember how strong you are every single day, never forget it. There were days I wanted to give up on myself and life, but then I remembered that God gives his battles to people who are strong and know they are able to get through certain obstacles. 

So, what does the future hold for me? 

It beats me! I have no clue because the future is unpredictable. All I do know is that I am going to stay positive, try my best not to think too far ahead, and live in the now; continuing to make the most of today. 

A reminder: Don’t waste your day worrying about tomorrow because you can lose sight of the treasure today holds.

Stay safe Luvs! x